A Mom Mantra for the Bad Days

Dear mama at her wit’s end,

I’ve been where you are. I’ve pressed my hands over my ears to drown out the noise. I’ve hidden in the bathroom. I’ve counted the minutes to bedtime only to find bedtime derailed and an already bad day lengthened into eternity.

Let me share a secret with you for how I’ve made it through those kinds of days. It’s a simple statement, a mom mantra, if you will.

It won’t be like this forever.

The hope in this mom mantra comes from the fact that children are fleeting. They change almost by the second.

While stressful moments and phases may feel totally consuming, like they’re the only thing going on in the entire world, they always—eventually—end. You will make it through them. Because it won’t be like this forever.

So when you’re huddled in the corner of the kitchen, your daughter’s constant whining grating on your nerves, remember: it won’t be like this forever.

When no amount of makeup slathered under your eyes can cover the shadows, and you feel like you’ll never get a full night’s sleep ever again, remember: it won’t be like this forever.

When your son enters the phase where he throws his milk cup on the floor multiple times at every single meal, remember: it won’t be like this forever.

When your young toddler, who’s always been a great sleeper, suddenly starts refusing to nap or go to bed, remember: it won’t be like this forever.

In any stressful moment, when you feel like you’ll never triumph over the difficulty you’re currently facing, remember that because it won’t be like this forever, you can persevere through it.

There’s a flip side to this mom mantra that helps us on the bad days by reminding us to savor the good and average days.

Because children are always changing, that means the good moments are fleeting, too. Remind yourself of this mantra in the moments that make your heart swell. Let it remind you to bask in the blessings of every little thing you love about your kid, because so many things they do are based on their age and they quickly grow out of doing them.

So when you’re running a little behind and your daughter is fascinated by a black ant crawling across the sidewalk, cherish the wonder on her face, because it won’t be like this forever.

When you’re staring at an overwhelming checklist you can’t accomplish because your son is sleeping on your chest, soak up his sweet scent and his warm, peaceful, squishy little self, because it won’t be like this forever.

When you take your daughter for walks and she stops every two feet to pick up a handful of rocks, marvel at her attention to detail, because it won’t be like this forever.

When you’re trying to make dinner and your daughter keeps stealing the kitchen towel from the oven handle, running away giggling uncontrollably, take a second to chase her and play, because it won’t be like this forever.

It won’t be like this forever.

Using this mom mantra to cling to hope for a better day and to appreciate the little stages of the quick tour of childhood has shifted my focus in a positive way so many times. May you find some hope in it as well!

~Kaitlyn

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